Clear and Clean Relationships

We are not here to do this alone.  The most important aspect of manifesting the life we desire is to find connections and expand our experience to those who are here to work together.  I don't know about you, but my mind has a tendency to find everything that is wrong, with you, with me and in the world.

Thoughts have energy, and they tend to reinforce themselves.  So if I keep having negative thoughts towards you, well, you can imagine that we won't have the best relationships.  Even if I don't say these things aloud, my thoughts and belief about you will be noticeable in the way I engage with you. 

Did you ever notice the effects of peoples preconceived ideas about you on how well they are able to listen and receive what you have to say?  

These can be good or bad?

For instance, have you ever gone to a seminar or workshop, where you were excited to hear the speaker?  How did you feel?  Compare that to the feeling you have had when you were forced to listen to something by somone you didn't like.

When some people hear the name Trump, they get excited and start to listen for wisdom.  When others hear the name, the cringe, and if they have to listen, they are tuned in for all things offensive.

What if we could do it differently?  What if we didn't have to create baggage in our relationships?  If we could do this, we could see things accurately, without bias.  More than that, we could work effectively with each and every person on our life's path.

So my goal for this month is to start to have clear and clean relationships.  This follows that Buddhist tradition of the 8 fold path.  The first two steps on this path being the most important:
1. Accurate Perception
and
2. Correct Expression 

To have clean and clear relationships means that I am looking for the best in you, but I am not completely tuned-out to those things that are out of integrity for me.   I can be supportive and encouraging in your shining your light, and I can help you shine the light on your shadow, and notice when you are shining the light on mine.

Shadow work is important for us all.  Being positive all the time can often result in a blow-up of self-sabotaging negative character traits that we have refused to acknowledge exist within us. The importance of clean and clear relationships is to be consciously aware of what belongs to me.