Forgiveness

Why is forgiveness so difficult?

Anger, frustration, the desire for revenge.  The desire for justice.  

When things are unfair, what is the right thing to do?  I know we are supposed to forgive, but how?  How can I let this evil deed go unpunished?  

It is hard not to feel like the victim.  I can make the list of sins against me, and it is long.  I can feel the pain and hurt, and remember the tears and despair created by those who sought to intentionally destroy me.   

What do I know of truth?  What do I know of life?  What do I know of Justice?

Do not look back.  Do not take it upon yourself to dole out retribution.  Do not waste energy on those who deserve none.

The parable of Lot's wife is one to be taken to heart here.  

What is needed now is to look forward.  Teal Swan spoke about forgiveness, and said you cannot make the decision to forgive, or force yourself, or do affirmations until you do so, you make the decision to move on with your life.

When your achieve resolution, that is the opposite of the pain that was caused by those who intentionally or unconsciously hurt you, then you can forgive.

You do not expect resolution by those who hurt you.  They are now in the past.  They are far away, long gone, distant memories.  You achieve resolution from your future, the direction you are headed, the goals you are seeking to achieve.  And when you achieve them, you are healed.

When you were destroyed by someones rejection and exclusion, you are healed when you are finally welcomed into the place you were meant to be.  This is when the resolution comes.  Now the forgiveness comes naturally.

So move forward towards what you are wanting in your life.  Use the hurt to show you where you need to go to be healed, and then walk that path of healing unwaveringly.  The resolution you seek is seeking you.  Your pain becomes your purpose.